It is okay to be shy. There is nothing wrong with being shy. I am shy and I am proud of being shy and you should be proud to be shy as well!
Shyness is often confused with a lack of confidence but I disagree with that. I consider myself a confident person. Yes, in social situations I am usually one of the quiet ones and I don’t say much. But that is not because I lack confidence or because I am afraid to speak. It is simply me being myself. I am happy not to be the centre of attention and just to sit back and listen.
If you came across this social anxiety and shyness blog looking for methods to overcome your shyness then I would say that instead of wanting to ‘cure’ shyness, just accept yourself for who you are. If you are looking for permission to be shy, for some kind of approvable, then you can consider that permission hereby granted.
However, if your shyness is having a negative impact on your life then there is a line where it can cross over to social anxiety and depression. Being an introvert, being quiet in social situations and a good listener is healthy. Sitting at home alone, enjoying the bitter-sweet feeling of feeling sorry for yourself, is not.
If you can relate to almost enjoying the sweetness of feeling sorry for yourself, enjoying being lonely and feeling comfortable with depression then that is not healthy and you should take action. For that I would recommend the Anxiety Lie because it does not cuddle you. It is tough on you and tackles the problem head on.
But if you, like me, are simply a quiet yet confident person. Then carry on being so. There is nothing wrong with it. Nothing wrong with it at all.
Please also check out my shy bladder tips website and shy bladder paruresis blogspot for more posts on shyness/social anxiety subject. All the best!
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